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Silk & Velvet - infused with Lavender

Comes in a variety of colors - Dragonfly or Blossom

The Dragonfly skitters across the surface of water which is symbolic of our “top thoughts” - the daily surface thoughts that primarily keep us in auto-pilot…

Dragonflies also knows that she is standing on the vast watery depth of endlessly profound and potentially life-altering thoughts - the murky mass of thoughts that represent our primordial divinity - a virtual powder-keg of expansive expression.

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The Story of CHANEL

For the first time, CHANEL tells its story online on Inside CHANEL. An intimate exploration of its origins, its creations, and its legend, and a singular introduction to the woman behind the brand, Coco Chanel.

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Rihanna may have openly claimed 2013, but Beyoncé’s accomplishments seem to state otherwise -Vibe Vixen

America’s favorite reliable Queen is headlining everywhere. Her name can’t stop buzzing! Everything she does is with poise! If you’re not on your toes, bow down burches!

This is “the idea that women can be all things, strong, vulnerable, sensual, maternal, fun, flirtatious.”

“I’ve always liked H&M’s focus on fun and affordable fashion. I really loved the concept we collaborated on to explore the different emotions of women represented by the four elements — fire, water, earth and wind. It was a beautiful shoot on a tropical island. It felt more like making a video than a commercial,” says Beyoncé.

Beyoncé has worked with the in-house design team at H&M to create the perfect pieces for the heat of summer. Included in the collection are also garments – among them a tie-dye bikini – 25 percent of sales of which will be donated to H&M for Water. H&M’s initiative with WaterAid has so far raised £2,650,000 since 2002.

 

Line will be available in May! (:

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Now honestly, this look is not for this model. She doesn’t appear like she can handle it. If she were just a little bit more excited? (oX This leather camisole is a lingerie nightgown gone adventurous~ for public! I wanna sip Courvoisier and laugh at success in this with three girls matching me identically lol. Its all about the essence of the moment. Let’s have fun and feel extraordinary! 

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thekingoftrinity: Amethyst is a meditative and calming stone which works in the emotional, spiritual, and physical planes to provide calm, balance, patience, and peace. Amethyst is used as beneficial when dealing with legal problems and money issues, which can lead to prosperity and abundance, though it is not the best known prosperity stone. In the psychic and spiritual realms, amethyst is an excellent all-purpose stone that can increase spirituality and enhance intuition and psychic powers of all kinds. It does this by making a clear connection between the earth plane and other planes and worlds. Amethyst is also excellent for meditation and lucid dreaming. It is used to open one’s channels to telepathy, past life regression, clairaudience, clairvoyance, and communication with angels. Amethyst also protects against psychic attacks, especially during spiritual work. Amethyst is not only a psychic protection stone, but is also used to protect one from thieves, and to protects travelers. Emotionally, amethyst is used in crystal healing  to help heal personal losses and grief, bringing one gently past. Amethyst has a gently sedative energy that ca promote peacefulness, happiness, and contentment. It also is said to bring emotional stability and inner strength. This stability and strength not only helps one hold firm in one’s life, but it can enhance flexibility and cooperation. To be flexible at need is a sure sign of strength. Amethyst is very well known — as from the ancients — as a sobriety stone. It has been used for millenia to prevent drunkenness, and is used to assist in getting rid of addictions to alcohol, drugs, smoking, etc, and destructive compulsive behaviors of all kinds. Physically amethyst is said by spiritual healers and mystical lore to heal the withdrawal symptoms of any sort of addiction, help with headaches, insomnia, arthritis, diabetes, pain relief, circulatory system issues, endocrine system problems, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, immune system deficiencies, asthma, phobias, pregnancy and preventing miscarriage, menopause, PMS, and general healing.  Amethyst is associated with the third eye and crown chakras primarily, but can also open the heart chakra. As a variety of quartz, amethyst has the energies inherent in quartz, as well as its own unique vibration. .Amethyst is a crystal whose energy can be multi-faceted. It can be as gentle as a petal or as wild as a storm. Many seem to see it as always gentle and calming. It certainly can be. Amethyst is a type of quartz, though, full of all the energy and power of its parent stone. Don’t hesitate to use Amethyst when great power is needed. It can bring in that energy with both force and balance.

thekingoftrinity:

Amethyst is a meditative and calming stone which works in the emotional, spiritual, and physical planes to provide calm, balance, patience, and peace.

Amethyst is used as beneficial when dealing with legal problems and money issues, which can lead to prosperity and abundance, though it is not the best known prosperity stone.

In the psychic and spiritual realms, amethyst is an excellent all-purpose stone that can increase spirituality and enhance intuition and psychic powers of all kinds. It does this by making a clear connection between the earth plane and other planes and worlds. Amethyst is also excellent for meditation and lucid dreaming. It is used to open one’s channels to telepathy, past life regression, clairaudience, clairvoyance, and communication with angels. Amethyst also protects against psychic attacks, especially during spiritual work.

Amethyst is not only a psychic protection stone, but is also used to protect one from thieves, and to protects travelers.

Emotionally, amethyst is used in crystal healing  to help heal personal losses and grief, bringing one gently past. Amethyst has a gently sedative energy that ca promote peacefulness, happiness, and contentment. It also is said to bring emotional stability and inner strength. This stability and strength not only helps one hold firm in one’s life, but it can enhance flexibility and cooperation. To be flexible at need is a sure sign of strength.

Amethyst is very well known — as from the ancients — as a sobriety stone. It has been used for millenia to prevent drunkenness, and is used to assist in getting rid of addictions to alcohol, drugs, smoking, etc, and destructive compulsive behaviors of all kinds.

Physically amethyst is said by spiritual healers and mystical lore to heal the withdrawal symptoms of any sort of addiction, help with headaches, insomnia, arthritis, diabetes, pain relief, circulatory system issues, endocrine system problems, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, immune system deficiencies, asthma, phobias, pregnancy and preventing miscarriage, menopause, PMS, and general healing. 

Amethyst is associated with the third eye and crown chakras primarily, but can also open the heart chakra. As a variety of quartz, amethyst has the energies inherent in quartz, as well as its own unique vibration.

.Amethyst is a crystal whose energy can be multi-faceted. It can be as gentle as a petal or as wild as a storm. Many seem to see it as always gentle and calming. It certainly can be. Amethyst is a type of quartz, though, full of all the energy and power of its parent stone. Don’t hesitate to use Amethyst when great power is needed. It can bring in that energy with both force and balance.

"If you want to reach a state of bliss, then go beyond your ego and the internal dialogue. Make a decision to relinquish the need to control, the need to be approved, and the need to judge. Those are the three things the ego is doing all the time. It’s very important to be aware of them every time they come up."
Deepak Chopra

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Perfectionism vs Love 

& how to overcome

 

Perfectionism is:


* the irrational belief that you and/or your environment must be perfect

* the striving to be the best, to reach the ideal and to never make a mistake

* an all pervasive attitude that whatever you attempt in life must be done letter perfect with no deviation, mistakes, slip-ups or inconsistencies

* a habit developed from youth that keeps you constantly alert to the imperfections, failings, and weakness in yourself and others

* a level of consciousness that keeps you ever vigilant to any deviations from the norm, the guidelines or the way things are “supposed to be”

* the underlying motive present in the fear of failure and fear of rejection, i.e., if I am not perfect I will fail and/or I will be rejected by others

* a reason why you may be fearful of success, i.e., if I achieve my goal, will I be able to continue, maintain that level of achievement

* a rigid, moralistic outlook that does not allow for humanism or imperfection

* an inhibiting factor that keeps you from making a commitment to change habitual, unproductive behavior out of fear of not making the change “good enough”

* the belief that no matter what you attempt it is never “good enough” to meet your own or others’ expectations 



 
What irrational beliefs contribute to perfectionism?

* Everything in life must be done to your level of perfection, which is often higher than anyone else’s.

* It is unacceptable to make a mistake.

* You must always reach the ideal no matter what.

* If those in authority say this is the way it is supposed to be, then that is the way it is supposed to be.

* You are a loser if you cannot be perfect.

* It is what you achieve rather than who you are that is important.

* I have no value in life unless I am successful.

* There is no sense in trying to do something unless I can do it perfectly, e.g., “I don’t attempt things I can’t do well.”

* If I have a failure or experience a set back in my efforts to change then I should give up.

* The ideal is what is real; unless I reach the ideal I am a failure.

* There are so many roadblocks and pitfalls to keep me from succeeding. It is better just to give up and forget my goal.

* Unless I am “Number One,” there is no sense in trying. Everyone knows what “Number Two” is. To win is the only acceptable goal.

* If you screw up in your efforts to achieve a goal, just give up. It must be too hard to achieve.

* You must always strive to reach the ideal in everything you do because it is in the achievement of the ideal that you give meaning to your life.

* Don’t ever let anyone know what goal you’re working on. That way they won’t consider you a failure if you don’t reach it.

* If you can’t do it right the first time, why try to do it at all?

* There is only one way to reach a goal: the right way.

* It takes too much effort and energy to reach a goal. I save myself the aggravation and discouragement by not setting goals for myself.

* I’ll never be able to change and grow the way I want to, so why try?

* I am a human being prone to error, frailty and imperfections; therefore, I won’t be able to accomplish things in a perfect or ideal way. I’ll just give up on achieving any of my goals or desires. 
 
 
What are some negative consequences of perfectionism?

Examples of the negative consequences of perfectionism include:

Low self-esteem. Because a perfectionist never feels “good enough” about personal performance, feelings of being a “failure” or a “loser” with a lessening of self-confidence and self-esteem may result.

Guilt. Because a perfectionist never feels good about the way responsibility has been handled in life (by himself or others) a sense of shame, self-recrimination and guilt may result.

Pessimism. Since a perfectionist is convinced that it will be extremely difficult to achieve an ideal goal, he can easily become discouraged, fatalistic, disheartened and pessimistic about future efforts to reach a goal.

Depression. Needing always to be perfect, yet recognizing that it is impossible to achieve such a goal, a perfectionist runs the risk of feeling depressed.

Rigidity. Needing to have everything in one’s life perfect or “just so” can lead a perfectionist to an extreme case of being inflexible, non-spontaneous and rigid.

Obsessiveness. Being in need of an excessive amount of order, pattern or structure in life can lead a perfectionist to become nit-picky, finicky or obsessive in an effort to maintain a certain order.

Compulsive behavior. Over-indulgence or the compulsive use of alcohol, drugs, gambling, food, shopping, sex, smoking, risk-taking or novelty, is often used to medicate a perfectionist who feels like a failure or loser for never being able to be “good enough” in life.

Lack of motivation. Believing that the goal of change will never be able to be ideally or perfectly achieved can often give a perfectionist a lack of motivation to attempt change in the first place, or to persevere if change has already begun.

Immobilization. Because a perfectionist is often burdened with an extreme fear of failure, the person can become immobilized. With no energy, effort or creative juices applied to rectify, improve or change the problem behavior in the person’s life, he becomes stagnant.

Lack of belief in self. Knowing that one will never be able to achieve an idyllic goal can lead a perfectionist to lose the belief that he will ever be able to improve his life significantly.
 
 
What rational behaviors are needed to overcome perfectionist tendencies?
 
To overcome perfectionism one needs to:
* accept self as a human being

* forgive self for mistakes or failings

* put self back on the wagon immediately after falling off

* accept that the ideal is only a guideline or goal to be worked toward, not to be achieved 100 percent

* set realistic and flexible time frames for the achievement of a goal

* develop a sense of patience and to reduce the need to “get it done yesterday”

* be easier on oneself; setting unrealistic or unreasonable goals or deadlines sets you up for failure

* recognize that the human condition is one of failings, weakness, deviations, imperfections and mistakes; it is acceptable to be human

* recognize that one’s backsliding does not mean the end of the world; it is OK to pick oneself up and start all over again

* develop an ability to use “thought stopping” techniques whenever you find yourself mentally scolding yourself for not being “good enough”

* visualize reality as it will be for a human rather than for a super human

* learn to accept yourself the way you are; let go of the ideas of how you should be

* enjoy success and achievement with a healthy self-pride, and eliminate the need for self-deprecation or false humility

* learn to enjoy success without the need to second guess your ability to sustain the achievement

* reward yourself for your progress, to reinforce your efforts to change even when progress is slight or doesn’t meet up to your idealistic expectations

* love yourself; to believe that you deserve good things

* to eliminate unrealistic expectations and the idea that you are infallible

* visualize yourself as “winning” even when it takes more energy, and more perseverance, than what you had planned

* let go of rigid, moralistic judgments of your performance and to develop an open, compassionate understanding for the hard times, obstacles and temptations

* be flexible in setting goals and be willing to reassess your plan from time to time to keep things realistic

* be open to the idea that you will be successful in your efforts to change, even if you are not “first,” “the best,” “the model,” “the star pupil,” “the exemplar” or “the finest”

* realize that the important thing is to be going in a positive direction 
 
 
How can a social support system help in overcoming perfectionism?
 
Social support systems can help you overcome perfectionism if you:

* select realistic people who are not perfectionists in their own life
 
* encourage your support system members to not be rigid or moralistic in their attempts to 
keep you on an honest course

* have support people who role model forgiving and forgetting when mistakes, failures, offenses or backsliding occur

* have given them permission to call you on being too hard, too brutal, too rigid, too unrealistic or too idealistic in your expectations

* have people who will give positive reinforcement for any positive change, no matter how small or slight it is

* select trustworthy people who are open, honest, and have a sincere interest in your personal growth 
 
 
Steps to Overcome Perfectionism

Step 1: 
In your journal, answer the following questions: 

a. What characteristics of perfectionism are true for me? How do these perfectionist traits impede my efforts to change my problematic behavior?

b. What irrational beliefs of perfectionists do I ascribe to? How do these beliefs influence my desire to change? How do these beliefs contribute to a failure script in my efforts to change? What rational alternatives can I adopt to reduce the negative impact of perfectionism in my life?

c. What are the negative consequences of perfectionism in my life? What am I doing to address these negative issues in my life? How do these negative issues affect my past and current efforts to change my problematical behavior?

d. What new rational behavior do I need to develop in order to overcome the negative impact of perfectionism? How will these new behavior traits help me to fully achieve change in my life?

e. How can my social support system help me in overcoming my perfectionist attitude? What contributes to perfectionism in my support system? What changes in my support system would reduce its perfectionist character?

f. How does dealing with my perfectionism help me in my efforts to change? How well does perfectionism explain why past attempts to change have failed?


Step 2: 
In your journal, identify a problematic behavioral pattern you want to change; then list the characteristic negative behavior traits of the pattern. 
For each of the negative characteristics list positive alternative behavior traits. 
For each of the new alternative behavior list your likelihood of achieving them 100 percent of the time. 
How many new behavior traits could you achieve 100 percent of the time?

Step 3: 
Once you have recognized that no change can be achieved 100 percent of the time, continue changing your problematic behavior patterns. If you continue to be hindered by perfectionism, return to Step 1 and begin again.
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Designer of the Day!

This carefully curated polish combo dress from Victoria by Victoria Beckham is the missing staple that would have refined Dior’s collection. (see bottom row) Shoutouts to her continuing to take shape the haute couture way! 

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